They all have the same basic premise.
It goes something like this: Girl is going after life/goal/trying to find herself. Via a contrived meet cute, Girl Meets Lead Guy, normally under some unlikely circumstance and even though she is attracted to him, it just doesn’t seem like an option. Same goes for guy—she’s either out of his league (above or beneath or a ghost) or he’s dealing with some tragedy in his past (which makes him the desired brooding type the audience roots for).
There is a realization by each party that they are smitten. It looks like the couple will come together…maybe it’s a montage of fun moments together, a vulnerable time of back story or a random championing of one or the other that leads to the mutual “ah-ha” moment.
Then, as it is wont to do, conflict hits and “reality” gives them a wakeup call, which in this case is represented by some nearly insurmountable conflict/misunderstanding that drives the couple apart.
A time of soul searching ensues. Eventually, they are drawn back together like magnets, realizing that come what may, they can’t let circumstances keep them apart. A bold, unashamed, come hell or high water type of declaration is made, cue cheesy music and the kiss the audience has waited for…and roll credits.
And we EAT THIS STUFF UP! Ladies, let’s be honest—these are the stories we like and we dream of living for ourselves. Whether you relate to Julia Stiles as Kat in ’10 Things I Hate About You’ or you’re more like Kristen Bell as Beth in ‘When In Rome’, we’ve all dreamed a dream in times gone by. We’ve all wanted to be the heroine that is strong and still swept off her feet.
So, why do we think real life is any different? When it comes to “Mr. Right”, we really want him to be here right now!
We want that perfect guy to come, announce himself as the perfect guy, propose and be done with it.
But think about it…if you walked into a movie with that kind of plot, would you like it? Would you recommend it? Would you sigh or laugh as you discuss it later? I highly doubt it. There’s no adventure, no character development, no investment—and no one wants to pay $10 to watch a movie lacking those key plot elements. So why would you pay your life for it?
Picture your favorite Rom-Com leading lady. Do you think she enjoys the fact that the screen writer is writing her a memorable love story when she is standing dejected in the rain or is binging on ice cream on her valentine’s night spent alone? Probably not. That’s why we relate to her.
Thing is, a good plot that pulls us all in and plays on our heartstring is not about some chick sitting in her kitchen just waiting for the doorbell to ring. It’s about a bold woman living life and the hijinks that follow when her movie man is released on the scene.
If we are grateful when the Hollywood writers meet that expectation and show us a love story that makes our hearts flutter, why do we gripe at God when it seems like our romance is in a holding pattern?
Let’s face it. When we picture the movie of our own dreamed love story-there is waiting, conflict and a joyful realization. These elements move a story, develop character and provide satisfaction that isn’t realized apart from the plot arc. Sure, omniscience on the when, where and how might put our little hearts at ease, but where is the story in that?
If I’m being honest, and God were to hand me the pen to write the love story of my dreams…it would still involve the elements I don’t enjoy because it makes the resolution that much sweeter. So, I think I’ll leave that double edged tool in the hands of the Author of Love and enjoy it as the story unfolds.
Ladies-What do you think…if you were to write the synopsis of your dream love story-how would it read?
Guys-What about you-What does a love story that appeals to a man look like?
Anyone have plans for showing love to the masses today? Share and encourage!